Toxic Friendships

Friendships can be so toxic. You try so hard to fit in, so you give up yourself in return. Soon, you just become a duplicate, and the real you is hidden. You begin doing things you thought you would never do. You are constantly unhappy. You are afraid to say the wrong thing around the people you should trust most.


Don’t let it get that far.

That is not what friendship is like. Friendship means surrounding yourself with people you can always rely on, people who will bring you up, not tear you down. You are different than any other person in this world. You don’t need to become someone else to be liked, you just need to find the people who will accept you.

So why do we do it? To get invited to more parties? To feel popular? It’s not worth it. Real friendship is being able to sit in silence, without the awkward part. It’s being with someone you can truly be yourself around.

So how do you know if you are in a toxic friendship?

If you are in one of these situations, get out! You deserve better, and you will find better.

Your “friend”…

  1. Always guilts you into doing things. They might hold a secret you told them against you.
  2. Doesn’t keep your secrets, ever. You can never trust them with anything.
  3. Makes you afraid to speak your mind. You are afraid he/she will hate you if you say something wrong.
  4. Always asks for something, but never does anything in return.
  5. Tries to change you into being more like them.
  6. Always degrades you, makes you feel bad about yourself, or criticizes you.
  7. Start arguments about every little thing.
  8. Gives you reasons not to rely on him/her because he/she will cancel plans with you if he/she get a better offer.

I hope none of you find yourself in this situation, but if you are, I hope this helps. I know finding/making new friends can be hard, but it’s possible. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can always message me on Instagram or Twitter!


Start Saying Yes!

*Before we start this blog post, I just wanted to say, yes, my name changed from KissesNYC to Kisses From Jess! It was a huge change but I am so much happier with it! No more changes will be made to the name from now on!*

Summer is coming up and I know some of us are looking forward to sleeping in late, watching Netflix all day, and having no homework. I know that’s what I did last year, but I really want to change that. I recently came across this blog post from Eventbrite and I wanted to share their campaign with you guys to end FOMO (fear of missing out) and replace it with GOMO (going out more often)!

Approximately 56% of social media users experience FOMO because we are constantly checking Twitter/Instagram/Facebook/etc see all the updates our friends posted. It is rare if we don’t post a selfie of us hanging out with friends now. It’s time we put our phones down and just enjoy the things around us. At least for a few hours at a time.

We are four (almost five) months into the year already, and I know I wasted so much time indoors, instead of out doing some things I’ve always wanted to try. So in honor of kicking off this idea, I decided to spend an evening in a local park with my family. We made a pact not to touch our phones until we were home, and we all succeeded (ok, I may have snapchatted once before we started). It’s amazing how much you miss when you’re looking down at a tiny screen.

Below I included some pictures that I took (using my camera, not phone!) and I think they are so amazing. The world around us is incredible and we need to pay more attention to it. It felt a lot more satisfying to actually be working my body than sitting in bed. I went for a walk on the trail, and my sister and I explored the little river flowing through the park.

So, this summer I encourage you to say no more to FOMO, and spend as much time as you can away from your phone. Go out and do things you’ve never done, and see the world.

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You can also check out Eventbrite’s website to find different activities and events in your area to participate in. Or, if you want to start an event, you can plan and advertise using their website as well.

This summer, I hope to participate in a color run, go to a concert or two, and go hiking/camping as much as possible. What are some things you are doing, or hope to do, this summer? Let me know in the comments how you plan on ending FOMO.

I hope this post inspired you to make new experiences as soon as tomorrow! You can also tag me in any tweets or Instagram posts, or use the hashtag #endFOMO. Make sure to come back next Sunday for a new post!